Five Love Language Gary Chapman A Love Language Minute

October 23, 2019
Breaking Down Barriers

Breaking Down Barriers

​How do you deal effectively with your failures? Dr. Gary Chapman says the barriers that are built from our failures should be dealt with by identifying them, confessing them, and changing our behavior.

How to Prepare for Extended Periods of Separation

How to Prepare for Extended Periods of Separation

​How do service men and women prepare for long periods of separation? Dr. Gary Chapman suggests the couple should talk about ways they can stay in touch with each other during the separation. After all, the Love Languages can be spoken from long distance!

Speaking One Love Language But Receiving Another

Speaking One Love Language But Receiving Another

​Is it possible to speak one love language but want to receive in another? Dr. Gary Chapman says yes. Most people speak the language they want to receive, but not all do. The most important thing is to learn to speak your spouse's language.

We're Definitely Not Perfect!

We're Definitely Not Perfect!

​Given enough time, we'll say or do things to our spouse that are not loving. Dr. Gary Chapman says we should ask our children and friends to help us identify past failures so we can be specific as we seek our spouse's forgiveness.

Gift-Giving

Gift-Giving

​If my child's love language is gift-giving, does that mean I should give them everything they want? Dr. Gary Chapman say no. Give them gifts that will be helpful for them and will communicate your love for them.

Putting the Past Behind You

Putting the Past Behind You

​How can we put the past behind us and start over? Dr. Gary Chapman says the phrase "time heals all wounds" is not necessarily true. Confessing our failures and changing our behavior is essential to begin the healing process.

Marriage Discipleship Groups at Church

Marriage Discipleship Groups at Church

​Do you want to start a discipleship group in your church? Dr. Gary Chapman says you should begin by talking to your pastor. Start small with a few couples who have healthy marriages to serve as examples for other couples who want to attend.

Prenuptial Agreements

Prenuptial Agreements

​Are prenuptial agreements a good thing? Dr. Gary Chapman says it's typically unnecessary for first marriages. But for second and third marriages, finances and children issues may make a prenuptial agreement helpful.

Biblical Picture of Marriage

Biblical Picture of Marriage

​The Biblical picture of marriage is the blending of two lives that will satisfy both individuals and serve the purposes of God. Dr. Gary Chapman says God created marriage to be the most intimate of all human relationships.

Beyond the Tingles

Beyond the Tingles

Dr. Gary Chapman says marriages often start with the emotions of love. But "the tingles" of newlyweds will never sustain the relationship. Learning the character and love of God and emulating it will grow a marriage beyond the feelings of love.

Marriage

Marriage

​What is the purpose and definition of marriage? Dr. Gary Chapman says God designed marriage for the purpose of becoming one. The word "one" is the same word used of God - "Hear O Israel. The Lord your God is one". Mankind was made for a composite of intimacy, unity and oneness.

Polygamy?

Polygamy?

​Why does God seem to allow polygamy in the Old Testament? Dr. Gary Chapman says God allowed polygamy, but He never affirmed it - it was never part of God's perfect plan. The Bible says God overlooked some things in times past, but now has clearly revealed His plan - one man and one woman.

The Purpose of Marriage

The Purpose of Marriage

​What is the purpose and goal of marriage? Genesis 1 provides the answer. Dr. Gary Chapman says God made man and woman to need each other and to become one in order to fulfill God's purpose in their lives.

The Purpose of Marriage

The Purpose of Marriage

​Dr. Gary Chapman says married couples seldom have the same love language. Each speaks their own language, but the other might not respond on an emotional level. Discovering each other's love language and speaking it will give you the key to a long-lasting marriage.

Isolation

Isolation

​Dr. Gary Chapman says one of our deepest problems in a relationship is isolation. A part of gaining intimacy is choosing to be self-revealing. It also requires listening to others who choose to self-reveal.